Life in a Forbidden Site

Almost 5 years narin ako dito sa Planet Romeo At one year sa  Grindr.

Madami na rin akong nameet. Iba ibang lugar. Iba ibang katauhan. Sa dami ng nameet ko, once palang ako nakatagpo ng serious relationship. Although it doesnt last long. May mga bagay na ndi napagkakasunduan pero never namang nangyari ang lokohan.

After nun. halos lahat na namemeet q isa lang ang gusto. One night stand. Marami rin ang pafall, paaasahin ka na mayroon kayong tyansa pero at the end kapag may nakitang iba. iiwan ka din bigla. Walang paalaman at walang usapan. End agad. Hindi b nila naisip na hindi naman ganun kadali makalimot lalo pagmahal mo na. Naisip q lang bakit may mga taong itataya ang matagal nyong pinagsamahan o pagkakamabutihan na masira dahil s pakikipag one nyt stand. Minsan may mamemeet ka din na ang hanap ay Tropa daw. kaibigan pero makatabi mo lang heto nanginginig na ang laman...mayrun pa nga yung tambay daw tapos mayamaya bigla kang hihipuan at pipiliting makipagsex sa kanya. Minsan naman inuman tapos pagmejo lasing ka na pipilitin kang makitulog sa kanila hanggang ayun na. May roon ding makikisleep over kuno tapos ang ending sex parin ang matindi may mga nagnanakaw p ng mga gamit mo. Marami din aqng nameet na serious relationship daw hanap pero after nyo magsex. magtetext nlng sya uli kapag taglibog z. may mga nakasex p nga aq n madami sinasabi hbng nagsesex kau, may gustong makipaglive in, gusto q maging jowa, nahanap n daw nya forever nya pero after labasan nalimutan na nya lahat ng cnvi nya.
Merun din yung sobra makatago ng FB nya na para bang magpopost ka dun ng kung anu anu about sa kanya sa mundo ng kabaklaan tapos pag nakita mo naman Facebook nya puro hubad na katawan at mga bakla at bayolang kaibigan ang nasa friends list nya...
Isa pa Alam nyo wala naman ako problema sa pakikipagmeet sa mga halata o pagirl, an panget lang kasi dun ay bakit kailangan na magpanggap na discreet o hindi halata kahit alam naman nya sa sarili na na halata sya...
Ganun din yung pag tinanung mo, lahat ng sagot nya nakadepende sa itsura ng kausap nya.... lalo na pag gwapo at bet nya.. yung mga TOP daw Nagiging BOTTOM.. yung mga TAKEN nagiging SINGLE...
Mayron din yung hihingian ka ng Wechat o Viber o Skype tapos aq nmn bigay. Sa una simpleng kamustahan tas maya maya aba lumlabas na ang dila at pipilitin ka ng magpakita ng ari ko sa kanya. Josko po.
Yung iba naiintindihan q po na nadiscreet kayo. Pero hindi nmn po siguro masama na magpasa kayo ng Pic. Kasi yun nga pong nagpapasa na eh nakakapangloko na eh panu pa kaya yung wala. Baka wala aqng kaalam alam set up na pala para aq holdapin o gawan ng masama.
Mahilig akong magbasa ng Profile lalo sa position at sa hinahanap nya.... kasi may mga nagsasabi na Friends lng daw hanap nila pero nakalagay sa Online status nila SEX... may mga TOP daw sila pero pag eto na mahipo mo lng pwet nya at tipong libog na libog na hala sige uupuan ka na.....
Madami din dito na yung mga lumang pic ang nakalagay. Tapos pag mineet mo aba ibang iba. Wala nmn po masama sa pagiging matanda, mataba,mapayat,o kahit anu pa at least sa simula palang alam mo na na may pag asa ka. Hindi yung pag nireject ka. Gagawan mo pa aq ng kwento na kesyo ganito ganiyan at kung anu anu.
Marami nagsasabi mahahanap ko din dito yung para sa akin.
Ang tanung mayroon pa bang seryoso dito? Siguro mayroon pero hindi para sa akin kundi nakalaan sila para sa ibang tao...
Ang gusto q lang naman makakilala ng mga tao na pde qng ituring na pamilya. Hindi man siguro Karelasyon sana kahit na Tunay na Kaibigan. Matagal na din ako dito Sa San Pedro mula sa Bayan ng Bacoor. Hopefully sana makakilala kahit na isa....

lastly 6 footer aq at kaya XL yan siguro totoo ngang pag matangkad ay malaki. sa akin kasi totoo. kung susukatin q siguro 6.7 inches ang laki nito....

about pala sa akin. Yes po single aq three years na after mangapitbahay ung xbf q. ewan q din bakit! .its not naman my choice. may mga nakakadate naman aq. Un nga lang ung gusto mo ayaw sau. Ung may gusto sau Ayaw mo naman. May gusto ka at may gusto din sau pero ayaw naman ng relasyon. Sapat na sa kanila ung sex sex lang. Para daw walang sakitan. hays.!!! Sa sex nlang b tlaga umiikot ang mundo nating mga ikatlong lahi..

OUT OF THE CALENDAR

When I was a kid, I needed everyone to see that I could do anything considered scary, and do it by myself. That meant not hesitating before climbing tall trees or watching horror movies that secretly terrified me. Often it meant impulsive decisions with little regard for consequences. I was no adrenaline junkie; it was all about trying to manipulate people into seeing me as “brave.” To me, scared meant weak, and that was unacceptable. Fast forward 20 years later and I’m still that seven year old kid, yelling, “Look at me Mama! Look at me Grandma! Look at me Tita! Look at what I can do!” “I can do this! ‘ I can do all that”!

Last weekend, a stranger wondered at the fact that I could attend a group date without a date. He could never do that, he told me. He would rather just stay home than ever go to group date alone. And I was speechless when he says that. 

So I quickly moved away from the conversation eager to get away from his fears...Our fears.

Then I think of this:
“If I only went places where someone accompanied me, I would never go anywhere. Don’t be afraid to do things you want to do because you don’t have a ‘date’ you are your own best company.
The importance of loving your life even if it’s not exactly what you pictured. How can you appreciate what do you have and take advantage of all comes with it. How traveling alone can be wonderful and even more fulfilling than traveling with a companion. No, this is not true.
The whole truth is that you can love your life and still yearn for what missing.
It’s difficult to reconcile: being proud of what you can do alone and desperately wanting to not have do it.

Last year I wrote about turning 30 and how it meant letting go of a life I had imagined for myself and replacing it with something else, something I was already living. But the real truth? (Again the but) I stopped short of the part where I admit that even in my happiness, there is still sadness. That I do still want a partner. I have accepted that don’t have it now and I have made my life work without it because that’s what I had to do. It wasn’t brave, or strong, it just was.

Because you adapt and you let go and you accept or you won’t be able to get out of bed in the morning.
I am 32 and it’s wonderful, lonely, exciting, full, liberating, strange, multifaceted, sad, challenging, adventure-filled, eye-opening, ever-changing and completely scary every single day. It’s real life, in all its complexities.

And it’s mine.

ULTIMATE GUIDE FOR APPLYING BUSINESS PERMIT IN SAN PEDRO CITY LAGUNA

Every start of the year, business establishments need to comply with the legal requirement of renewing business permit with their respective local government units (LGUs) to be able to continue operating.

Procedures for obtaining a permit may vary depending on the city where your business is located, but these are most likely the steps you need to complete.

Step 1: Fill out the application form.

Head to our San Pedro City Hall(BPLO Dept.)and fill out the relevant form: Application for New/Renewal of Business Permit.

Step 2: Submit the necessary requirements.

Submit the filled-up Application for New/Renewal of Business Permit form to the Business Permits & Licensing Office together with the original and photocopies of the following documents:

REQUIREMENTS:

New:

• Department of Trade and Industry Business Name Registration (for sole proprietorships)
• Securities and Exchange Commission Articles of Incorporation (for corporations)
• Barangay Clearance for Business (from the local barangay where your business is located)
• Homeowners Association Clearance (if your business is operating in subdivision or village)

 Renewal:

• Department of Trade and Industry Business Name Registration (for sole proprietorships)
• Securities and Exchange Commission Articles of Incorporation (for corporations)
• Cooperative Development Authority Registration (for cooperatives)
• Previous Mayor’s Business Permit
• Barangay Clearance for Business (from the local barangay where your business is located)
• Community Tax Certificate or Cedula
• Business Taxpayer Identification Number (TIN) from the Bureau of Internal Revenue (if need)
• Latest Payment Receipts
• Declaration/Certification of Gross Sales/Receipts
• Income Tax Returns (ITRs)
• Financial Statements (FS)

ADDITIONAL REQUIREMENTS:

Other documents may be required by your city, depending on your business type such as:

• Zoning & Building Permit
• Sanitary Permit
• City Environmental Clearance
• Fire Safety Clearance
• Lease Contract (if you are renting your business space)
• Professional Tax Receipt(for professionals)
• Real Property taxes(for lessor)
• CCTV(for educational institution, money remittances and pawnshops)

Keep in mind that requirements from city to city differ, but generally, you will need these documents’ original copies, as well as photocopies.

Step 3. Pay the necessary fees.

After you submit your application form and documents at the window where they will need to be assessed, proceed to the cashier and pay the license and regulatory fees that need to be settled.

If you are handed out receipts, claim stubs, or anything of the like at any step along the process, make sure you keep them and take note of the details indicated. If you lose these important pieces of paper, it will add hours, or even days, to your process.

Step 4: Get your approved business permits.

Once you have completed your payment, you will receive yournew/ renewed business permits.  We will asked you to return on a designated date for your payment, come back on the given time and date.

What will happen if you fail to renew your business permits?

Penalties are imposed upon business on failure to renew business permits. Your business establishment will also be disallowed to operate within the territory of the LGU if you fail to renew your business permits.

Tips for fast and glitch-free business permits renewal

• Do not wait for the last day of filing. Apply and renew your business permits early so that there will be no long queues and massive influx of those applying for renewal.
• Prepare a good amount of patience and cash before setting off for renewal.
• Make sure that you have all the necessary documents and your application form is properly filled out before trooping to the city hall.
• Make several copies of the required documents in case many duplicate copies are needed.
• Be familiar with the process of renewal permits. Check out  our cities website to learn the steps on how to apply for renewal of business permits.
• Lastly, do NOT transact with fixers or brokers. Get the help of a professional service like if you want a fast processing of renewing your business permits. They can take the burden of preparing the documents, queuing in lines and filling out forms for you.

I AM GAY AND I AM A CHRISTIAN

It's strange that I'm coming out to people on the internet before anyone I even know, but that seems to make it easier. I've been a christian all my life, and I have always loved God, when I was around the age of 11 I found that I would do anything for God's cause. I've know all my life that I'm gay, but being a child I thought that I would find the perfect woman who I could actually find attractive - that seemed logical since I was a man, I would of course find a wife and have kids - but as I went into my teens I found it wasn't as easy as that. I even had a girlfriend for a short period of time, but I eventually found that I only liked her as a friend, when it came to kissing and stuff I had no real interest. So we broke up.
I have heard many arguments  like: homosexuality not being allowed is only in the Old Testament and we should focus on the New Testament, or being gay is completely wrong, or you can have a same sex partner but you can't have sex with them, and many others. For me, I know homosexuality is not something that pleases God as defined in His word, and can accept that, but I hate knowing that the loneliness I feel may never go away. Same sex attraction is a weird thing, it's not something you just get over or pray away. Right now I'm just trying to love Jesus more that I my desire to be with someone in a loving personal, tangible relationship. Sometimes I fail, I screw up, I lose my focus, I get lonely and depressed, I get angry, I cry out for help. But even these things so me no good because I have not told anyone what I am going through. And I honestly don't think I ever could. It's like my sexuality is a weight around my neck, and the layers of self loathing and pretend happy faces just wear me down. Though it seems pointless, knowing others are going through the same thing does give me a little comfort. Sometimes I just wish it was enough.

I CAN SMILE ABOUT IT NOW BUT AT THE TIME TIME IT WAS TERRIBLE

Yeah, bye 2013. Apart from the last couple of months, you were rubbish.

I don’t really do New Year’s resolutions, because the truth is that I’m constantly resolving to do better and change things in my life. But this new year has fallen at an auspicious time for me, a time when I am already in the process of making big changes. So that whole ‘fresh start’ thing is a nice boost.

Amongst other things, I resolve to blog more often. I mean, at least once a week. If you don’t blog once a week, then you can’t really call it a blog, can you? So there’s a public declaration of intent… feel free to kick my butt if I fail on this one.

I’ve got a load of writing goals this year, the main ones being to finish what I start, and to get these damn novels written. I have three, in varying states of unfinished  and I need to whip them all into shape. Apart from that, there are various other goals, some of which will remain secret, and some which are just too pedestrian to recount here. But 2013 is going to be the year when my writing career starts kicking into gear. At least, that’s the plan.

My word for the coming year is COURAGE. I often lack it, and I need a lot of it. Sometimes it takes courage just to sit down and write something, ignoring the terrible voices that seem to have a lot invested in the idea that I can’t, or shouldn't  It takes courage to do simple things, make big decisions, ignore petty people, stay focused. I know I will have a lot of challenges this year, and I hope I’m courageous enough to do what I need to do.

And as for you in 2013? May your neurons fire without fail; may your dendrites be stimulated; may your chemicals remain balanced; may your body support all your mind’s plans; and may the mysteries descend upon you.

I FEEL UNAPPRECIATED

My Parents.. Do They Care??

I feel like it doesn't matter if  I talk or not. My parents would mind if I didn't exist, wasn't home or died. But that's it. THis is hard to explain (I'm not English so..) But i'll try anyway.

An example: We are all watching tv. And I see something on TV that I like and I tell my parents: " Hey, isn't that cool. OR Hey, isn't that they same clock we have!"  And I look at them enthusiastically. But they don't do anything. They just ignore me.

And it's ok, if that happens a couple of times. But this happens all the time. And I feel like I don't matter. Like they don't care about my feelings. I ALWAYS listen to them when they say something and I always react. I could never just ignore them. That feel just so mean to do. But they don't mind doing it to me. 'Cause my feelings doesn't matter to them, I guess.

And when I tell them, they're like: We do listen. We just don't react. OR you talk when where doing stuff. We can't do 2 things at the same time. LIARS. I can do that and they can do that to. Theyre not idiots. It's just something unconscious in their mind that says that when I talk, they don't need to listen or react.

This is so normal in my house, that my sister even jokes about it. She says:" Oh, we never listen to you. Nobody ever listen when you talk. That's normal." And I try to pretend that it doesn't hurt me. But it DOES!

I feel unappreciated. Like me being happy en me talking, is annoying and doesn't matter. I always ask for attention at home. I'm always energetic and talk. But people don't care.

And when I try to talk about my feelings with my mom, WHen I say that I don't feel happy. She just says: "oh..that sucks for you". And I always say it in a way that they shouldn't worry about it. And that's because I feel they don't want to talk about it or they don't care anyway. They don't take my feelings seriously.

What my parents think about me, is very important to me.

I feel like I am just not .. I don't know.. Like they just don't care about me. I know they love me. And they don't do this on purpose. But.. it makes me sad. They never listen. I want my parents to listen to me and be nice. I want them to tell me what I do good. I want them to care.

They always complain about me. And then they complain that I don't talk about my feelings to them. And when I do tell them about this, they get annoyed and mad.I am really working on having more confidence. I'm trying to accept myself. But It's so hard, when my own parents bring me down. When I hate myself, it is usually after some fight with my parents. Or when I feel sad It's usually after something with my parents.

I need to get away from here, but I want to stay in my house. I also feel save here. But also unhappy. I always want to make my parents proud. But I can't. I want to choose stuff because I want them. But It's hard, when I'm always scared to make my parents mad..

So that's it. Feels good to write about it.. :)

WHY DOES HE SEND ME PIC OF HIS PENIS?

I meet a man via an online dating site, we chat back and forth, get to know each other, then he will ask for my phone number. If I like him I will give it to him. Then he will text me. I may even give him my Facebook. This usually leads to him asking me out on a date. So far, so good, right? Well… here is the scoop!About 85% of the men who get my telephone number and facebook do something very bizarre. They randomly and with no warning whatsoever send me a picture of their penis!! Erect!!! Also, they seem to prefer texting and chatting on cam prior to a date, instead of actually calling me up and asking me for a date. But back to the penis issue… is this normal? How would i react? Why are they doing this? I mean, you’re just going through your messages or texts. It’s early in the morning and you’re drinking your coffee… and suddenly BAM! There is a fully erect dick in your face! Coffee snorted up the nose, all over the keyboard! hahaha

but i ask myself co'z actually im doing this too haha, i found my two reason why i am doing this:

1) i am looking for sex and searching for love. I'm leading with the sex part. Somewhere in my primitive reptilian brains, i think this is a good idea. Objectively, it’s not. I’ve never met a man who was turned on as much as he was creeped out.2) We assume falsely that because they would like to see a naked picture of YOU, that you MUST equally crave seeing a naked photo of them. This is probably the soundest psychological premise I could put forth to explain something so patently stupid. “I showed you mine, you show me yours!” or some such nonsense.

But be true! what they don’t know is that while most gay men appreciate a good body – and quite possibly a hard cock – you are really turned on by his wit, his intellect, his drive, his warmth, and his strength. These are the qualities that make you want to be with him sexually, not vice versa.And so, any man who leads with his penis – as you pointed out – isn’t necessarily a bad human being, but he is definitely someone who doesn’t understand what makes gay men tick. hahaha

5 THINGS WHY I HATE BEING SINGLE IN VALENTINES DAY

We have all been there. Love is in the air and there’s a flicker of romance in everyone’s eyes but you've just gone through a bad breakup and are a member of the ‘loners club’. tsk tsk tsk

Your friends excitedly make big plans for this day. They have already bought new outfits to wear along with gifts for their loved ones. But all you can do is listen with a poker face as they share ideas and ask for advice resisting the need to scream. You begin to hate your newly acquired relationship status for various reasons:

5)  Paraphernalia ( mga abubot)

Malls, shops and bookstores are displaying chocolates, teddy bears and  heart shaped cards. Sadly, no one who will buy them for you.  You can’t buy them for yourself  because the shop assistants will look at you with like you are pathetic. Duh haha!

4) Love-obsessed media

Radio stations play love songs which couples dedicate to each other. You, of course, have no one to dedicate anything to. Radio and Disc jockeys dish out advice as if they were love gurus. Morning show hosts harp on about the importance of the holiday. They invite happy couples on their shows who share stories which only add to your misery. Watch any TV channel and you’ll see romantic specials. So, be ready to have lots of tissue handy, along with a big bowl of chocolate ice-cream.

3) The color red

Red is the color of the day. It is worn by every other person and if you decide to wear black (because it’s your favorite color), you are looked at with suspicious eyes and that adds to your embarrassment tama?

2) People in general

Your friends and cousins send you Valentine’s day ‘forwards’ through text message even if your facial expression clearly says you are not interested.

1) Pity

Making plans to hang-out with your friends who have dates on the day is  a big mistake. The sight of those couples will make you sick.

Oh My God!I'm gonna die!

MY FRUIT SALAD

.This is the Filipino Fruit Salad that I included in our Christmas dessert besides the traditional Apple Pie. I haven’t had this in a long time so when I was planning my menu I made sure to make this too. Thank goodness there’s a Filipino store about 30 minutes drive away from us. I couldn't make this with just fruit cocktails and pineapples. The essential ingredients for the Filipino Fruit Salad are the coconut gel and sugar palm fruit. The stuff that makes it sweet are easily found in any grocery store.

INGREDIENTS :
fruit cocktail (2 cans), drained
1 jar of coconut gel, drained
1 jar of sugar palm fruit, drained
1 can of mandarin oranges, drained
1 can of condense milk
3  or 4 spoonfuls of cool whip

Drain the liquid from the fruit cocktail, coconut gel, sugar palm fruit and mandarin oranges. As you can see, I’m using store brand fruit cocktails. They’re cheaper. There are items in our groceries that needs to be certain brands (mayonnaise must be Hellman’s) but when it comes stuff like this, store/generic brands are just fine. Whichever is cheaper or on sale. They taste the same. It’s called saving in groceries 101.
You can replace mandarin oranges with pineapple chunks if you prefer. We love mandarin oranges and the mild sweetness and texture is just how I like it.
Dump the fruit cocktail, coconut gel, palm fruit and mandarin oranges in a storage bowl/container. Add the condense milk and 3 or 4 spoonfuls of cool whip. Gently fold/mix everything together with a flat spatula. That’s it. Cover and store in the fridge overnight. It is so much better after spending  at least a night in the fridge. The colder the better, as long as it’s not frozen.
We still have some leftovers. I just had lunch and I think I’ll have a cup of the sweet, calorie laden Filipino Fruit Salad  

FRIENDS WITH BENEFITS

Here is my top ten Rules of having Friends with Benefits

1)    Must think twice about a quick hook up with your neighbor

There are plenty of pros when it comes to having a Friends With Benefits living next door to you, at least the walk of shame is substantially a lot less embarrassing, you don’t have to worry about driving home after too many drinks, and usually you’ll be able to tell if their home or not. When the reality of how your sex buddy spends there time away from you

and viceversa, and location could very well be the downfall of your casual relationship when you spot their car missing at 2.00 in the morning you really do think what are they up to!

2)   Don’t try and convince yourself the relationship is more serious than it is.

No matter how hard sex buddies try not to fall for each other there is always that chance that one or both parties will have feelings for each other. It’s not just the ladies that this is

happening to or the risk of ruining the no-strings-attached arrangement. It sure can happen to men too. if you've been sleeping with a guy who then confesses that he considers you

nothing more than a sex buddy, it might be your dream of making him your boyfriend has gone and so has the Friends with Benefits relationship.

3)   You have to proceed with caution if you meet someone new.

You will sure have to see how it goes with your FWB when you meet someone new,  Don’t assume exclusivity with a person you like until you've actually talked about it. Remember,

you’re not the only one having casual sex on the side while you date maybe your new partner is too. The bottom line here: Don’t make any major decisions until you've clarified things

up with them first.

4)   You should not encourage friends and the family to hang out with your FWB.

Your FWB should fill the same role just like a imaginary friend they are there when you need them, but he has no place in your for your out going social life.

You might ask why well, at first because a FWB is meant to be temporary basis. If you start bringing them into your weekly routine you’re creating a long-term connection.

also because you have to protect your feeling If you see your FWB getting along with all your family and friends at the latest meet up  you could develop feelings for them even more.

5)   You won’t need to sleep over.

Erick, a 28-year-old single woman from Bacoor says one of her favorite parts of having a FWB is that he doesn't have to cuddle up after or even have that  awkward morning-after feeling

“I can just kick him out after the is all done,” he says. “For me, post-sex cuddling is all about emotional bonding and intimacy. I sure have no interest in that with a sex buddy.

I love saying goodnight, taking a nice bath and then jumping into bed totally relaxed…and well satisfied.”

6)   Sure not to get upset if your FWB goes out with someone else.

You just have to remember that  your FWB is not your boyfriend. This means if you catch him with another girl he’s not cheating on you. The same sure goes for him too

you’re both free to date who ever you’d like

7)   Must keep your relationship in the bedroom.

When there has been a few hot sexy nights spent with your FWB, you may start to wonder if you should meet for next coffee, see even see a movie.

But Carlo, a single 26-year-old guy from Imus, warns not to do it, unless you are planning to have a more serious relationship, a date leads someone to think that there’s

more to the hot sweaty passion than just the physical aspect,” he says!

8)   Sure have to protect yourself

You should make sure you are both practicing safe sex regardless of whom you’re sleeping with, but it’s very crucial to be careful with a sex buddy because that’s all they are your Sex buddy, and your buddy could have a number of partners because they are is not bound to you. It is especially important to use condoms to prevent sexually transmitted infections STI’s

when you are engaging in casual sex with partners.

9)   Have to be smart about social media.

Hey, maybe your met your FWB on Facebook, but that sure doesn't mean that they wants the world to know you’re hooking up on the regular basis, so you think twice before posting status

updates like, “sure had a banging’ time last night”  If you don’t want to know what your FWB is up to in there spare time, you might also want to consider not connecting Facebook

and social media to begin with.

10)   Don’t always think that sex is required.

When ,Marcian 33, who lives in Cavite, started sleeping with her FWB, she says it was really adventurous, and had so much fun that we did it multiple times a week and even met up

on lunch breaks for sexy romps in his car.” After a few weeks, though, he got really tired of doing it so often and declined one night. Once he had explained that it had nothing to

do with him and that he wasn't sleeping with someone else, the guy was sure fine with it. “From then on, he had never questioned me when I resisted, nor did I over think it when

he ignored some of my texts from me from a few late night,” he says. “The great thing about having a sex buddy that is cool is that if you play it for what it is, everyone. I would suggest laying down all the ground rules from the start! If your looking of having Friends with Benefits then look no further your sexy buddy today!